Saturday, April 23, 2011

Little angel~~

Lucky to have my little angel with me, when i'm feeling down or sad, i know you are feeling that too. You are always there to feel what i feel, and trying to "kick" me out of the misery... I know, i always know you are trying hard. With the company of soothing, relaxing piano music, and your existance, it makes me feel stronger, tougher, and it's just for you, my little angel~~ no matter what happen, i'll be there, just for you!

Sunday, November 7, 2010

Time to sleep

It's 11.53pm now, it's time to sleep, but i'm still here, reading other people's blog. He has gone to bed for about an hour now, but i'm still not feel like sleeping, having a lot of thoughts, thinking about the weekend full of activities.

Finally we had our living area tiles covered with timber flooring. It looks significantly different, with a cozy feel, classy look.. :p I like it so much... luckily we didn't change to 1x1 or 2x2 tiles, even though timber flooring is a bit more expensive, but i still think that it's worthwhile. We spent few days cleaning the cement dust on the cupboard, floor, mirrors, decos, and touch up on the paint of the wall. Now it has a brand new look! Good job to myself and him. *wink*

Here comes the in-laws. We had lunch and dinner with my parents, went to penang hill, but the railway was closed for maintenance. So we had a change of plans to the temples. Sleeping buddha, Burmist temple, kuan yin temple were our destinations. And of cos, the shopping mall is a must go, so we went to Queensbay mall.

Despite the busy weekend with visitors, i still managed to cook ourselves dinner today. We had herbed grilled fish, fried prawn crackers, and curry chicken, which is the leftovers from the in-laws. My target is to cook at least on the weekends, once a week. As we are usually drained out on weekdays, thus eating out is still the best choice.

Phew~~ it's 12.13am now. Time to head to bed... Afterall, tomorrow is Monday!!! Loads of work is waiting~~~ >.< Nitezzzz

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Wonder why~~~

I wonder why some people like to comment on what car you should buy.
I wonder why some people like to comment on why you didn’t buy the other color for your car.
I wonder why some people like to comment on where you should go for honeymoon.
I wonder why some people like to comment on what kind of rings you should buy.
I wonder why some people like to comment on why you didn’t buy bigger diamonds on it.
I wonder why some people like to comment on which restaurant you should have your wedding reception in.
I wonder why some people like to comment on whatever thing you have/own.

I wonder is this my thing or theirs…

Monday, October 11, 2010


Recently I have read through an article titled “Regrets of the Dying”. It leaves a strong and influential message in my heart and kept me thinking for quite a moment. It’s indeed a good article to share with all my friends and let us all think through it.

The author of the article worked in a palliative care unit in a hospital. His patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. He was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. Here it goes with his story~~~

People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone's capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honor at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn't work so hard.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, and choose honestly.

Choose happiness.

Sunday, September 27, 2009


What is perspective? Simply, perspective is the way you look at things. There are many different ways in looking at things. When your partner or someone close is going abroad for a few months or years, how do you look at this situation? Some people may look at this as something sad, as they will be apart for a long time, not able to meet each other, distanced relationship seems hard to maintain, and so on. However, some may look at this positively, they treat this as a test for their relationship, they felt happy for their closed one as this is a good exposure and prospective for their closed one, and they provide support to their closed one. This is the different ways of looking at a same situation, in other words, a different perspective.

When you lose your job, how do you know that it is a bad thing? Is losing your job the end of the world? No, of course!! If you think positively, losing a job means you get a chance for a better job. If you don’t lose your job, you don’t even have a chance for a change, thus there won’t even be a chance for improvement. As the chinese saying goes: 塞翁失马,焉知非福. Meaning the old man loses his horse, how does he know that it is not a blessing? Thus, always look at things positively. Happy or sad, you still have to live with it, as this is your life, then why not we choose to live happily? The choice is all yours!

Saturday, September 26, 2009


What is money??? Why does everyone looking for money, and why is money so important? Money is a medium of exchange in the form of coins and banknotes. With money, we can have lots of things, for instance, we can buy a house, a car, enjoy good food, enjoy life, help others who is in need, etc.

But why everyone is looking at money so importantly??? Everyone is working so hard day and night, 5 days a week, overtime during the weekend, for what? Definitely it's for money!!! Because without money, you will not have the extras to enjoy, and some people work hard just to make ends meet. Thus, work hard for money everyday seems to be the right thing to do.

However, some people neglected their family, their significant half, and their friends, just to work hard for more and more money. Is money so important that family, partners, and friends can be ignored? Is money everything? Can we buy family with money? The answer is no! We could use money to buy a house, but not home! We could use money to buy a clock, but not time! Money isn't everything! No doubt that money is important, but it doesn't represent everything.

Thus equilibrium is of utmost important. We must work hard to earn more money, but not to neglect our families as well. It is not easy to achieve such balance though, as many people tend to work too hard for money and sometimes it's too late for us to appreciate our family. So, remember! Money is not everything! Appreciate your family while you still can!

Saturday, September 12, 2009

Baby's cooking at our house~~~

It was Saturday, when we planned to have our own meal in our own house. Since we had outside food almost everyday, and we were sick of thinking where to eat, cooking at home is the best solution after all. Days before, we had our shopping spree at a few nearby shopping centers, for seasonings, various kind of veges, meats, eggs, etc.

Walla~~~ Here's the home cooked food from us. This is among the 1st few meal in our house. We had the "steam 3-flavoured eggs 三味蛋" which consists of century egg, salted duck egg, and chicken egg. Next is the "Seaweed soup 紫菜汤" which consists of seaweed, various type of fishballs, and sausage. The third one is the "fried cabbage with carrot" which consists of small prawns fried with sauteed cabbage and carrot.

This is the "before and after" photo. Eating halfway, then only we found out that the 3 dishes were enough for 4 person... :S So there goes to the fridge, and we had the same 3 dishes on the next day... :p

Although it is just a simple meal, but we enjoyed it a lot. We had fun planning on what to cook, enjoyed cooking together in the kitchen, criticizing the taste of the food, and hoping to improve our skills later on.